Las week we took my eldest (Caleb) to UMASS and set him up for his first year.
WOAH.
Time is strange.
So many people have been asking me how I feel about it.
I’m actually super excited for him. He is ready and we are ready for him to take the next step!
He has chosen to attend a school that is 20 minutes away. Maybe I would feel more sad if he were going a longer distance away.
But for now, I am just overall filled with joy that he is so pumped to step in next year, live on his own (in a contained bubble), be challenged academically and meet new people.
His absence on a day to day basis in the house will be felt.
Jeff won’t have anyone to yell at to take out the garbage. Allister will not have anyone to complain about not playing with him.
But in all seriousness this is a big transition. An ending of one stage of life and the beginning of the next for him. For us, the ending of one particular phase of parenting, and moving into the next. For Allister, the ending of a brother being home all the time and into what their relationship will look like now.
This is all unknown territory. I could speculate on how we’re going to feel or about what is going to happen. I could stress out about it all or about how I don’t know what’s going to happen.
However, I don’t choose those things.
The unknown requires respect and patience.
Transitions require patience.
We won’t know how things are going to land until we give it some time.
We won’t know exactly the best way to be in communication in this phase, until we try some things out.
For these next few months I am open to feeling my way through this next chapter. Some things will be smooth. Some things will not. Some things will be unexpected. Some things will be predictable. There is no wrong way to feel or be.
For anyone navigating a transition this fall, this is your permission slip to not have it all sorted right now.
Your permission to ride the wave of the ups and downs of newness and change.
Your permission to feel a variety of emotions and moods all at the same time.
There is no wrong way to BE or FEEL when things are shifting.
If you are looking for some support and space to navigate any transition you are currently in, I invite you to reach out. From 1-1 Somatic Coaching, to hands-on-healing sessions and retreats, to couples coaching, I have a variety of ways to support you and your process at this time.
