what is resilience?

According to google, RESILIENCE defined is: “the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties”.

As parents our greatest strength is our resiliency.

The ability to recover quickly from

challenges

stress

things that come up that are out of our control

triggering things

upsets

scary things

frustrations

excitements

new experiences

is a superpower that we NEED.

Life is full of ups and downs and learning how to surf all sizes of waves (without getting pulled under) supports our ability to show up for our kids, our partners and ourselves and be the patient, present parents we want to be.

When life throws us curve balls are we crumbling and falling apart, or are we able to meet adversity when it happens and bounce back?

In the last 10 days I:

• Navigated my eldest getting 3 wisdom teeth out, and being up all night with him as he threw up the medicine that he had a reaction to

• Brought my youngest to his first ever try-out for anything

• Moved my eldest into college for his first year

• Sat with my mom for a whole day while my dad was having open heart surgery

• Traveled back and forth to the hospital 4 days in a row to support my mom and visit my dad while he is recovering

• Took my youngest at 10pm one night to the ER (he is totally fine now) after having just returned back from the evening at the hospital with my dad

• Dealt with our water heater which had rusted through to the bottom and leaked 50 gallons of water in our basement, flooding my office AGAIN (for those of you who know me here ….)

• Navigating days with no hot water and having no access to a functioning shower (yay for a camping solar shower!)

• Went to a concert with my husband in Boston for the first time for the duration of the 15 years we’ve been together (boy am I old…that was one of the most over stimulating things I have done in a LONG time).

I also

• Started to take over the communication pieces (phone and email) of my father’s business while he is recovering

• Wrapped up teaching an 8 week Peak Performance Cours

• Started with a new couple’s client

• Signed a renewal with a client for 3 more months of Peak Performance Coaching

• Sold a 3 session Peak Performance mini package to a new client

• Signed a 6 month Peak Performance package to a new client

• Held space for my regular coaching and healing clients

• Stepped back into being into more of a homeschool mode with my youngest

Yeah….there is a lot going on.

Through all of this, while I have definitely hit my capacity limits, I have been able to be present, patient and ebb and flow with everything unfolding.

I am still in the middle of things. I still may crash.

AND

I am taking care of myself the best I can

Drinking water

Melting

Conscious breathing practices where I can weave them in (in the car, in the hospital waiting room, in the bathroom, in the shower)

Resting (even if I am not able to sleep at night)

Staying on top of making sure I am getting nutrition/fuel

Reaching out to friends and my coach for support

Receiving craniosacral work

Receiving chiropractic work

It’s been a complex time, and yet it is still all working.

The resiliency I have built within my nervous system over the last 10 years is allowing me to have this kind of capacity.

The kind of capacity where I can spend 4 hours at the hospital, drive home and then drive back with my 10 year old at 10pm for an emergency and still be the mom he needs in that scary moment.

The kind of capacity where I can go to bed at 2am 2 nights in a row (at age 42 ) and while I’m tired, I am still functional and able to give my family and self what I need.

I am so grateful for my practices and frameworks, and my support systems that allow me to hold as much as I do for myself and for the people I love.

Curious to learn more about how to build more emotional resiliency and expand your capacity to hold all the threads of parenting and caretaking with more ease?

Andrea Bordenca and I would love to invite you to our 6 week virtual course, 𝘽𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙀𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚: 𝙋𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙋𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝘾𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚.

We start Sunday September 29th. Find all the details with the link below. Reach out with any questions. We would love to have you.